Sunday, September 11, 2011

My heart broke for my daughter. We were on our way home from a party yesterday with Brennyn (Avery was at Wonderland with her Aunt so she wasn't there) and Brennyn was telling us about her time playing with the other kids. Suddenly she quietly says "the big girls wouldn't let me play in the house". I was surprised and asked what she meant. All the kids had been playing together in the basement. It's funny, because I had said to Blair earlier "do you think I should go down and check on Brennyn"? I feel like I'm like one of those helicopter parents though, so I figured since we knew where the kids were and there was an adult down there, she needed time to play on her own. I don't know if it would have made a difference if I was down there, I'm sure it was bound to happen sooner than later. Kids are kids. Anyway, after we pressed Brennyn about it she said "I'm just too different, so they didn't want me to play". She was so sad! Now, I don't know if any of the kids said that, or if Brennyn just thought of that on her own. I tried to get her to expand, but she was so tired. How we try to shelter our children, but all the while knowing you just can't. I wanted her innocence to last forever, but I knew it couldn't.


  1. That really stinks! I just talked with M about what advice she would give to B--she recommended the book WISE Up. It has really helped her through the years; it gives options and scenerios on how to handle kids when times are hard or intrusive. We have used it since she was three. It is an "adoption" book, but in she has used it much more for her difference.

    Hugs to B. Treating others badly is NEVER okay.

  2. Thanks for your advice Wendy. I tried to tell Brennyn that it is never okay to treat anyone like that and you make sure to include everybody no matter what.
    She was crying a bit this morning while telling the story to her sister. I will get that book!

  3. Oh my goodness, my heart is breaking too. It's one of those moments I absolutely dread, and I feel like it could happen to any child - it physically hurts me to think that children can be so mean.